My Mom is visiting and has been staying with my family and I since December.( Mom primarily lives in Zimbabwe). It has been a joy to watch her interact with my kids and they absolutely adore her! They sneak into her room often to hide in there when it’s time for them to go to bed and when I go looking for them I find them laying on her bed and chatting away with her. To them, she is the adult in the house that has all the time to listen to them and lets them talk their little hearts out…
The lesson? Take time to stop and listen to your kids. Oftentimes we get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life and forget to slow down and listen to our kids. I, for example, am a staunch believer in keeping and maintaining my kids bedtime schedule. When it’s bedtime, it’s bedtime, Momma don’t play! I will even hurry my kids up when they try to tell me something when I’m tucking them in because I’ll be looking at the clock.
Observing how Mom listens and doesn’t cut off my kids has convicted me to stop and take the time to listen to my babies. I see how they adore her and look for every opportunity to spend time with her simply because she listens. They look for her if she goes to her room and follow her just so they can interact with her. I want them to do the same with me too. I want them to look for me, to come to my room to just talk, and to lay on my bed randomly without me prompting them to. I realize that I need to stop looking and acting busy and rushed and stop; stop and listen to these little people who will not be little forever.
The dishes can wait, bedtime routines can be tweaked, but moments passed cannot be regained or relived.